Infidelity & Betrayal Trauma

I know I reference infidelity and betrayal elsewhere, but I am not going to take the time to find where.

Infidelity

Infidelity is its own beast. Cheating is entirely self defined. However, know that cheating is usually followed with a Boundary. Actionable consequences for behaviors are normal in adult relationships. If we truly believe in freedom as a human right, then the person has the option to take the action that leads to the consequence. This is essentially laws, or how they are in the ideal world. A law would be universal, supposedly. However, in America, the norm is to base behaviour around the boundaries of the law, and quite frankly, past it where a consequence does not occur. Humans love to push thresholds. Hitting the boundaries for children. They get a jouvenile record. Adults get that shit for life. We are expected to have developed in democratic participants and actively engage in civics with peers by the time we are 18. That is the foundation premise the States used to systematically ban Child Labor and to introduce Schools and educational systems and Disability rights and Women's rights adn so forth. Let your laws be known so that when we walk through these doors you have done the work of proof. 

Betrayal Trauma

Betrayal trauma is not simply infidelity. It is when a person who holds a boundary connected to a person's foundational human needs violates that boundary and then the person cannot leave. Betrayal trauama shows up in Children frequently because these people have no say over their birth or the care they need to reach adulthood. They are fundamentally incapable of care and when an adult violates a child's boundaries, the child is in position to say no and will actively seek to please the adult. A child will see no wrong in this because it brings them attention and what they percieve as connection. This is getting into Human Development, Freud, Critical & Theoretical Frameworks, Dissociative Disorders, and Boundaries & Being in Relationship.